3 Things That Can Save You When You Don’t Know What To Say

You’re on a date and you like the person, but they’re just not much of talker. You have already talked about your hobbies, your families, your jobs, but nothing else seems to come into your mind and the other person isn’t really helping (that’s what you believe).

One of the best ways of filling in conversation gaps with your significant other is to utilize small talk. Small talk will give you a general picture about your partner’s likes and dislikes, as well as what they would like to discuss or leave alone. Once the small talk gives you a general idea, you can go ahead and discuss your common likes and dislikes.

But what is really freaking you are those moment of silence. The key to avoid or get over these horrible moments are:

1. Compliments

Compliments are a great way to break the ice and build rapport with people. We all like to hear how great our outfit is or that we have great tastes in music, and your date is no exception. While many of us fear that we’re not good enough or that people will reject us, giving compliments is a great way to reduce those anxieties and help the other person feel as though you accept them for who they are. By doing so, you will make them feel more confident in themselves which will make them more open to sharing information with you.

2. Asking open-ended questions

They way you ask questions is very important in establishing effective communication. Effective questions open the door to knowledge and understanding by leaving room for the other person to share as much information as they feel comfortable with. Open-ended questions are the best way to help your partner do this.

The best open-ended questions start with “why” or “how.” Asking “how did you come across that band?” after asking them who their favorite band is allows them to share an intimate story that can help you learn more about the other person. You can use these frequently without being annoying. The other person will feel like you are interested in what they are telling you and will be more open to sharing details about themselves to you.

3. Listen, listen, and listen some more.

Many people have a tendency to talk about themselves. I mean let’s face it, most of us like ourselves and we love telling people about us because we’re so awesome, aren’t we? It’s fine to tell stories and share opinions with others but it’s equally important to let the other person do some talking too.

Rather than trying to make the other person think you’re the best thing that’s ever walked into their life, try opening your ears more and allowing the other person to speak so that you can understand them on a deeper level. Doing so will make them feel as if you’re really interested in them and in turn will make them more interested in you.

The open-ended questions you ask will be a great set up for you to really listen to what they are saying instead of waiting for your turn to speak. Make good eye contact with them, lean in a little bit, and try to understand the deeper implications of what they are telling you.  When you do this you will establish a greater connection with the person you’re with and make them want to spend more time with you.

Conclusion

While we all fear those awkward silences, you now have some new tools to break those silences and have a wonderful time getting to know your date. Remember, the key is to ask more questions, listen to what they are telling you, and establish a connection that will make them want to spend more time with you.

3 Reasons Why Inner Game Will Help Your Love Life

Have you ever had great success in one venue, maybe house parties, but were unable to succeed with women you met other places, like perhaps clubs?

Often it is easier for you to be cool and social in one venue than another. This is your `comfort zone`. You know what to say, how to say it, and who to say it too. But outside of that zone, you are toast! This is because we often use certain external techniques and social skills that do not really apply to every venue we might find ourselves in. When you have deep set beliefs that you are a high status, and that no matter where you are, that you are among the elite, then all these anxieties and problems fall away.

How? Because your strength and resolves makes other people change THEIR mode of behavior to suit yours. Imagine walking into a raging concert and having everyone in a completely different frame of mind, all begging to appease YOUR way of interaction. The people bend to YOU. That’s the power of having a strong inner game.

Inner Game Positively Influences Your Body Language

  1. Fifty-five percent of the communications signals we send results from how others see us
  2. Thirty-eight percent flows from the way they hear us
  3. Seven percent comes from our words

Having solid Inner Game allows your body language to accurately communicate. This is called `congruence`, when your words are matched by your attitude and body language. If you say Super Man things to a person, but feel like Clark Kent inside, they WILL know, and you will get nowhere with her.

Inner Game Improves Every Aspect Of Your Life, Making You More Attractive

I saved the best for last. Inner Game development need not be limited to confidence and belief setting with dating. It can apply to everyone, and life in general. You can rethink previous ideas, like you’ll never be able to get into a good college, or you’ll never make a good XYZ and then your subconscious will begin helping you to change so that these things can happen. What is best is that being successful in life ( and I don’t mean being rich ) will make you doubly attractive to people, and that will raise your confidence even more. It is cyclical.

Conclusion

Not learning proper Inner Game techniques can lead to ALOT of frustration AND embarrassment too using seduction tactics that seem incongruent. Without Inner Game, no amount of fancy techniques will allow you to have lasting success with dating.

 

Online dating for beginners

Finding the right person to date has never been easy. Sometimes no matter how hard you try, there is always a feeling that the perfect person for you is out there even though you just don’t know where to find them.

Finding your better half can end up consuming lots of time and money, but it doesn’t have to.

Welcome to the world of online dating.

You no longer have to search someone special through your friends circle, just log on to a online dating site and you are ready to go to find your better half.

It is reverse kind of phenomenon, in which a person understands one’s aspirations and expectations via internet and finally decides to meet in person.

There are many benefits that glorify this concept. Anonymity is the first and foremost benefit that online dating provides you. You may hide your vital information including contacts, address, surnames and so on. This provides you a freedom to know the person better without a fear of being revealed. You may choose to be anonymous if you wish to until you trust a particular chap.

Security, moreover, is other benefit which invites ladies for online dating whole heartedly. No more you need to fear unwanted person to disturb you and interrupt your search for a right match. In case someone gets on you, you may block him and continue with your search. Just logging onto a right dating site can get you access to millions of prospects to go through.

Just a few words regarding your online dating venture:

* Don’t be half hearted and get ready for risk bearing. Not all ventures go 100% successful, hence, it is important to prepare yourself for some let downs. Be sure what you want and get a through research work done before actual dating.

* Spoil yourself. Treat yourself with good and new clothes and get some shopping stuff that relaxes and you and provide better confidence then ever.

* Decide in advance the reasons you are dating for. Be sure, what you want from your partner and does the search satisfy your dating goal. Be sure if you are seeking for nice companionship or you are seeking for a life partner or so.

* Boost up your confidence before going for any sorts of date. Attending social functions and getting along with your friends would surely enhance a positive aura around you.

* Decide the meeting place in advance. Be sure, the place to be public enough. Although night clubs prove to be a bad idea for meeting for first time. Obviously you would not like to scream into ears to get your views conveyed to your partner. Choose a place like a coffee shop that proves to be ideal to talk to.

* Most importantly, enjoyment is the key for dating. After all this is the reason you are dating for.